Fearing failure is failing to be free.
The entire focus of this episode is helping you reframe the idea of failure + fear because you're going to face failure and fear on your journey! A lot of my followers avoid it like the plague. They think they’re self-worth comes from their sales or dollars in their banking accounts…and from that place, what starts to come up is lower self-worth and really limiting thoughts. And from that lower state of mind, do you take action?!
You just refreshed social media a million times a day and refreshed your online office to see if new customers came into your business. You wish you had the life of everyone you compare your life to. Let me guess…they have it so much easier than you?! That’s why they’ve ‘succeeded’ and you haven’t?? You have it so much harder??
I know I’m being tough, but we need to reframe your mindset now!
Otherwise, you're going to feel stuck.
You're going to feel like nothing you do matters.
You'll feel exhausted all the time.
You'll be burnt out…
Even though most of the actions you're taking likely aren't actually the productive actions that will get you to where you want to be and what's going to happen if that continues?!
+You will never have that dream that you genuinely want.
So, what do you say we get through it now?! How would that sound?! Awesome!!
With that, welcome to The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack! I’m a Mindset Strategist and Coach, inspirational speaker, and creator of Appreciation Academy and I help online business owner’s breakthrough all the negative self-talk holding you back from your dreams so you can finally see the success you deserve! This is the weekly spot to break through everything that’s holding you back from the life you really want!
If you've ever failed at anything (be honest!) do you then view YOURSELF as a failure?!
How does it feel when you view yourself as a failure? Does that empower you or disempower you?
Obviously, it disempowers you!
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WRITE THIS DOWN: Fearing failure is failing to be free.
Let me tell you a story…
About five years into building a network marketing business, I had a little bit of success in it, but nothing to write home about. I was building my biz and I wasn’t really feeling it. I felt like I was meant for something different.
I remember I built up this identity behind the business that I was building. I had five years in the business and I was helping all these people and it was a wonderful thing, but I was so afraid to go in different direction (not just because of the financial side of things!) But that part was scary, too! If I give up that business, I'd be also saying no to the income.
I kept thinking…what if they judge me?! What if all these people that I thought were my friends no longer liked me? And I was really, really afraid of that! And you know what?! It turned out to be true in some instances that some people didn't like me. But for the most part, I realized that most people were totally okay because they were thinking about themselves (they weren't thinking about me!)
So, I was scared! Scared that I wouldn’t be able to provide for my family with my new business…scare what people would say about me and how they’d judge me…scared my new business wouldn’t be successful…
…but I took the leap! I went through the process of launching my flagship course Appreciation Academy. I poured my heart and soul into it for months and months. I stayed up late and got up early. I remember after I finished creating it, my wife and I had a glass of wine in front of the Christmas tree.
I was SO excited because I knew it would change people's lives! I knew it would help people and I knew it because it's exactly how I changed my life. So, I started promoting the course! Facebook Ads, Instagram, any way I could get the message out for my webinar that would lead into the course!
500 people said they were going to come to this webinar, and I was so excited!! “Oh my gosh, 500 people are going to come to this webinar! That means we can make like $20,000 or $30,000 in a day!!”
So, the day of the webinar and after 500 people signed up…only 40 showed up. As you can imagine…my confidence went in the shitter. And after all this work…only ONE person ended up purchasing the course. ONE PERSON.
I was devastated. I poured my HEART & SOUL into this project and spent thousands on ads!!
This continued for the 10 months…we got a couple more sales, but it still wasn’t getting off the ground…so do you know what I did?! I KEPT ON TRYING! I kept going and there is NO WAY I would have gotten to where I am now if I had viewed myself as a failure…viewed my launch or course as a failure.
I want to help you reframe your view of failure and fear with my 8 tips!!
TIP #1) You will never get stronger if you only do easy things.
The path of least resistance will never lead to a prideful life.
We’re entrepreneurs! Everyone else chose the paved path and we are hiking in the woods instead. We’ve got lots of obstacles in our way- rivers, creeks, logs, bears…it’s tough out there! We ALL wipe out! We ALL fail.
What is fear? F.E.A.R. Face Everything And Rise!
Face everything and rise because you will never get stronger if you only do easy things. I'm telling you…if you take the easy way out, it might feel good for just a moment, but inside there is this deep pain…this feeling of “I'm never going to be worth what I truly want!”
This ‘calling’ for more.
I'm telling you right now…if you choose the harder path (the one that you're meant to take), you will win! It won't happen right away, but you're never going to get stronger if you do easy things.
TIP #2) Fear makes you normal!
You are not broken. If you're scared, you are normal.
Stress is the achiever’s word for fear. That's all it is! It's the fear of what will happen if you don't do X. That's all it is. So, we need to get present to what we experience as fear, but realize that if we experience it, it makes us normal. Fear does not go away. As you become more successful, you just do scarier shit. That's what you do!!
You become more competent and build confidence as you go in your biz and that confidence allows you to do scarier things. So, realize that if you're feeling fear, it makes you normal!
TIP #3) Stop turning fear into the enemy.
Fear is not your enemy.
Fear is a natural emotion that tells you if you're going in the right direction.
It's a sign you're going the right way, so stop thinking you shouldn't feel it. Stop thinking that it's a bad thing. You will never stop feeling afraid. All I guarantee you right now, there are things and dreams that you have that are being put on the back burner because of fear.
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.”
TIP #4) When you have courage, fear gives you direction!
Fear tells you the exact direction you're supposed to go. Think about it. If let's say filming a live video for your audience about a particular topic scares the hell out of you. You’re afraid of being judged. You’re afraid of what people will think of you. That means that is the exact direction you're supposed to go!
Most people see it as something to run from. You need to run towards your fears.
If investing in that mastermind or coach or my Appreciation Academy course is something that is scary, it is a sign to run towards it, not away from it! Think about the sensation that comes with fear. We take it to mean STOP, but instead shift your mind to react to fear as GO!
KNOW THIS: Fear stops ALL of us! There is no way to ‘get around it’…you must GO THROUGH IT!
TIP #5) Don’t remove fear.
Tame fear. Don't remove fear, tame fear. The one way to tame your fears (like training a dog) is through action.
Are you afraid to ride a rollercoaster?! DO IT ANYWAYS!
Are you afraid to go ALL IN on your biz?! DO IT ANYWAYS!
Take one step at a time, in the direction toward your dreams. It doesn’t have to happen at once…
Maybe you get in line for the roller coaster…then you take a step up on the stairs…then you get to the front of the line where you can see the riders…then you buckle in…then it starts to move…
And you know what happens next?! YOU HAVE AN AMAZING TIME!! You enjoy the crap out of that ride!! Maybe you even decide to go on it again!
Are you taking the action steps to get in line for the rollercoaster? Are you working your way up the stairs? Face your fear because it will be worth the joy you feel on the ride!
TIP #6) How do you tell the difference between what’s good and what’s truly bad?! YOUR HEART.
THINK ABOUT SOMETHING in your life right now that’s terrifying…
Something where you just haven't fully pulled the trigger on and you're afraid.
Now answer this question from your heart (not your mind)…
**Never negotiate with the mind. The mind's job is to keep you safe. The heart's job is to expand.**
Think about the one thing you want to take action on…now answer this question…
Does saying ‘yes’ to this thing make you feel expansive or contracted?!
Your answer will tell you which way you need to go!
So, what is it for you? Listen to your heart because your body has the answer. Your body has a wisdom way beyond logic.
TIP #7) What happens if you fail?! You will WIN…You will LEARN…but you will NEVER lose.
There isn't a single instance where I messed up and it didn't lead to something amazing.
We need to see all of our failures as a beautiful thing. Something good always comes out of every storm. Please hear me… hiding from failure is like stopping a movie when the characters get into a tough situation. Would you ever stop a movie at the part where the conflict shows up? No, because you want to see how the character resolves a conflict! You don't want to hide from failure. You want to go all the way into failure!
TIP #8) You are not a failure.
It is impossible for you to be a failure. Calling yourself a failure is the same thing as calling God a failure. It's calling God a failure for creating you. It doesn't make sense at all! It's your ego trying to keep you safe. You are not a failure. It's impossible for you to be a failure. The only way to truly fail is if you choose not to learn!
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