Welcome to The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack! I’m a mindset strategist and coach, inspirational speaker, and creator of Appreciation Academy. I help people to elevate their relationships, career and mindset to the next level.
Have you ever used positivity as a coping mechanism for pain?
Have you ever pretended that problems don't exist?
Have you ever reacted positively to a situation believing it is the way you SHOULD react?
Positivity is important, BUT it is not everything.
I would like to introduce you to the 3 Levels of Positivity as well as the occasional perks of negativity (not something you'll hear me say often!)
A lot of the time, our view of positivity is pretty, well, er, positive! However, it does not cure-all. You can't, of course, simply go into your garden and chant, "There are no weeds here," and expect them to magically disappear. Nor can you keep telling yourself that there are no weeds. As a standalone, positivity can be blinding, not allowing us to see the negatives that are happening. For positivity to be positive, it needs to be constructive.
Negativity, controversially, has its place. If negativity didn't exist, we would be incapable of appreciating the positive in our lives. It serves us by creating contrast, which is, just as well, since it isn't going away! The important thing here is our ability to use our minds to handle it.
3 Levels of Positivity
1. Insecurity Compensation
Insecurity compensation is a coping mechanism or mask for pain. It's pretend positivity or positivity in its most basic form.
How do you know if you are in this state? Well, ask yourself - how are you when you by yourself?
If you are experiencing insecurity compensation, the chances are you are probably having a difficult time. Maybe you are spending your time in judgment of others, or perhaps seeing challenges as unfair rather than a gift of growth or you might be seeing life as happening to you, not FOR you.
Insecurity compensation usually co-insides with something I like to call, "seeking Behaviors," which means behaving or acting in a way to seek validation from others. This isn't an authentic feeling, and we want to graduate towards a more empowering use of positivity which brings us to Level 2 of Positivity.
2. Silver Lining
"Every cloud has a silver lining," is a common phrase that means identifying the negative but flipping it to see its positive attributes. Whilst this a huge upgrade from insecurity compensation, it does deny the existing circumstances and reality to some extent. With this mindset, it can be difficult to solve our problems because we are obscuring some of the facts.
Alignment is the third and final level of positivity that gets to the root of our problems and challenges. In this stage, we accept negative circumstances and are able to realize they are a gift or blessing to allow us to make positive change and progress. It involves experiencing and feeling negative emotions but knowing how to center ourselves. By processing the negativity, we are able to experience authentic positivity.
It is likely that you have been, and will be, in all three of these positive states at different times in your life. It is important to notice if you have a habit of being in Levels 1 & 2 more frequently, as this will enable you to start to shift your positive mindset to the next level!
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