Welcome to The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack! I’m a mindset strategist and coach, inspirational speaker, and creator of Appreciation Academy and I help online business owners breakthrough all the negative self-talk holding you back from your dreams so you can finally see the success you deserve!
Have you ever noticed that someone could say something to you a million times and then someone else says it and all of a sudden it clicks?!
The biggest + simplest + easiest way to solve your most challenging problems is to give yourself advice as if you were your own client… because when you’re in the thick of it, you already know the answer to your most challenging problems (and if you truly don't know the answer… there's Google available, right?!)
There are a lot of ways to solve our problems, but we typically don't allow ourselves to go there when we're deep in the problem. It's like we have this storm above us and it's raining down on us and it's taking all this energy! We are caught up in the storm (hiding) and we're tired and we're stressed and we're fearful of getting struck by lightning.
Why can planes fly during storms? Because they elevate above the storm.
You need to elevate above your problem, so you can see the solution more clearly.
This requires taking an objective look and removing the emotion for a second. Take whatever challenge you are facing in your life right now and ask yourself… if you were giving advice to someone else about how to solve this problem…
What would I tell them to do?
What would I tell them to say?
Would I tell them to react or respond?
What would be the answer to their question?
Have you ever noticed that it feels more significant or challenging to us when we get advice? Like our response is… “No, no, no, this is my situation and it’s soooo much harder for me.”
One of the biggest challenges that I see people go through on their pathway to success is that they think their situation is different or harder. All human behavior is just patterns. That's all is. And no matter what your situation is, it might have your own little special spice or flair in your situation, but it's not that significantly different from what other people are facing. It just feels that way in the moment because you are just being pounded by the storm of life (instead of taking off and elevating above that storm).
That is what I encourage you to do when you are trying to solve your deepest, most challenging problems. I challenge you to elevate above the storm that you're facing.
If we don't ever listen to our own advice… there is probably a reason for that. Have you ever noticed that? It's really easy to give other people advice, but it's a lot more challenging to take your own advice. The reason for that is because it feels good to have a way out of taking responsibility for our challenges.
Have you ever noticed that when you have a problem, you get rewarded for it? When you have a problem, you become part of the group. You connect with other people.
The biggest addition in life is not…
Our biggest addiction is to our own problems!
We are addicted to our problems because when we tell ourselves these stories in our head over and over and over again about why we can't get out of our situation because it feels good.
It’s called confirmation bias. We are always seeking out ways to prove what we already know is true.
If you have a story playing in your head about how it's harder for you, you will do everything you possibly can to prove that story is true. It feels rewarding to tell ourselves a story because when we tell ourselves a story, it gives us a way out of taking responsibility.
When we don't take responsibility for our challenges…
… because of our spouse…
… because of our money situation…
… because of our business…
… because of our career…
… because of our up-bringing…
This is all a victim mindset.
The victim mindset is appealing because it gives us a way out of facing what we are afraid of.
The minute you take responsibility for your life and you start listening to your own advice… it means that you’re ready to confront what you’re afraid of. It means you have to acknowledge that you are scared, but you are going to take action anyways! You are going to change your circumstances!
I am a firm believer that you see what everyone else is doing and you sprint the opposite way.
So, while everyone is replaying the same stories in their head, you are paving your own way. You are facing your fears and solving your own problems.
Take a second… PAUSE (take a breath to remove the emotions)…and really assess the situation and give yourself the advice you would give others. Take responsibility for making the change you need to make (and if you don’t or won’t… it’s because you are enjoying replaying that story over and over in your head. Stop rewarding yourself for the victim mindset. It is time to move on.)
There's no judgment for that. We all do it, but we need to realize that if we're rewarding that story in our heads, it is limiting us. It doesn't take our lives to the next level. It doesn't take us to the place where we actually want to be. It feels good temporarily, short-term pleasure for long-term pain.
We never actually solve the challenge that we are going through. We just find a way out of taking responsibility.
There's no stronger force in the human personality than staying consistent with who we already think we are. We need to change that! That is my challenge for you… take your own advice and make the changes that you need to make NOW. Solve the problems you keep replaying in your head and take one big leap toward the life you were made for.
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