Welcome to The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack! I’m a mindset strategist and coach, inspirational speaker, and creator of Appreciation Academy and I help online business owners silence all the negative self-talk getting in the way of your dreams so you can finally see the success you deserve!
And I’m curious – don’t you just want more people to like you? I do! I love it when people like me! And since people do business with those they know, like and trust, it’d probably be a great idea to learn how to be more likable! That’s what today is about! Likeability!
Let’s start the process of making more friends and becoming trusted the first time someone interacts at you, so you can have the success and the friendships you deserve! Now you’re not going to be everyone's cup of tea. That’s just the truth. You’re never going to get everyone to like you. Everyone definitely doesn’t like me! And that’s okay! You don’t need them to!
I’m a firm believer that there are five fundamental keys to being truly likeable in your life and your business. In this podcast, I’m gonna dive deep into the most important one and then at the end, I’ll offer you an opportunity to enroll in my powertalk called, “The Likeability Factor” for a much deeper dive into the other 4 and how to apply it to your life!
So what’s the most important factor when it comes to being likeable? What do you think it is? Is it how you’re dressed? Is it how you talk to people? Is it asking questions? Nope. Sure those things help! But that’s not it.
Hands down the most important piece of being liked by others are the mindset you have about yourself. That’s right. It’s your own personal self-esteem and confidence. People can tell your confidence level very, very quickly when they chat with you. And if that confidence and self-esteem are low, will they want to hang out? Will they want to do business? Nope. So that’s likeability factor 1 – it’s your mindset about you.
So take a look at the way that you interact with people and the way that people you respect interact with people. You know how some people just command respect. Like you can just tell they have this confidence about themselves. I’m not talking about dominant people. I’m talking about confident people. Often times, dominance is a sign of insecurity. Can confident people command respect while being loving, playful, and full of joy? Of course! I’m an example of it!
I’m an extremely confident person! And trust me, I didn’t used to be! Which is why I know I can teach you how to do this!
When you look around at people in your life, don’t some portray confidence, respect, and attention with their energy? And then some people lead their lives not trying to be intimidating with limp fish handshakes and a shaky voice. And you’ll see that the person who commanded respect gets respect. And you’ll see that the person who didn’t command respect, doesn’t get respect. And what’s really cool about this is that there’s a direct relationship with the people that command respect and the success that they have in relationships and their life. So it’s really simple if you break it down. Ready for it?
You get treated the way you expect to be treated. You get treated the way you think you should be treated!
If you have no confidence in yourself, how do you carry yourself? How do you speak? Do you share your thoughts? Or you hide in the back? How is your energy? Are you excited about life, or do you kind keep quiet? And how does this affect the business relationships and friendships you make? This has nothing to do with introversion vs. extroversion at all btw. This is about how you see yourself! This is about believing you’re worthy of respect.
And on the flip side, if you have high self-esteem, high confidence, high belief in yourself, how do you speak? How is your energy? How is your handshake? And do you think someone is going to be more likely to trust your opinion or the not confident person? It’s self-explanatory.
Your attitude and self-confidence that you portray to others is a mirror for how much or how little you love yourself. If we want to be perceived as likeable and important to other people- meaning someone that other people would want to be around on a regular basis, then we have to THINK that we are important.
Why? Because how you think determines how you act. How you act determines how others react to you.
So it’s really simple, you have to think you deserve respect. Or else people will walk on you and won’t want to be part of your life.
Let’s touch on a couple of things you can do:
1.) Think What You Do Is Important
One of the things I see people often do, especially in the online sales profession is that they are almost afraid to share it. They’re afraid of being judged- especially online marketers. So we downplay how great our profession is. I want you to say your profession with pride. If you are building a business, that means you’re helping someone for a living. That is not something to apologize about. Every time from now on that you introduce what you do to someone, you say it in a power stance and with confidence and pride in your work. hat alone will make the difference on if someone would want to do business with you.
Think about it:
"Well I help a couple online with their fitness and sometimes run these groups. It’s not as bad as it sounds and I’ve been enjoying it." Holy shit, I would never do business with a person that talks like that.
But if someone says, “I’m an Online Fitness Coach, and I change people’s lives every single day in these awesome groups that I run!” - Now, you’ve got my attention because I want to do business only with someone that believes in what they do.
It’s like saying, “I’m only an analyst,” or “I’m only a mail delivery man.” That in itself makes you less likeable because your confidence is low. But if you say, “I deliver the mail and make sure that everyone gets what’s important to them in a timely manner, and I meet so many cool people!” I instantly have more respect for you.
So it’s clear that you command the respect you get by how you define your work in conversations with others.
This isn’t only going to gain you respect, but it’s going to get you promoted faster because when you think about your work positively, you’re going to contribute more to it and you’re going to become better at it. Even if you don’t like your job, you must command confidence in how you explain it. And if you don’t like your job, I’m gonna give you a little secret - telling people that you don’t like your job might seem like a great way to blow off stress in the moment, but it actually makes them have less respect for you. So if you don’t like your job, I want you to connect to a higher purpose of what you do.
A great example about this is the bricklayer story. I forgot where I heard this, but it’s so true. This is gonna help a lot of you who hate your job. I want you to connect to a bigger purpose and start talking in positives instead of negatives. You’ll instantly become more likeable.
So a man walked up to a bricklayer who was busy working, and he asked, “what are you doing?” and the bricklayer responded, “I’m slabbing this brick together what does it look like?” Then that man walked up to the next bricklayer who was busy working, and he asked, “what are you doing?” and the second bricklayer responded, “I’m slabbing together this brick together for a 9 dollars an hour.” And finally the man walked up to the third bricklayer who was busy working, and he asked, “what are you doing?” and the bricklayer responded, “I’m building the world’s most awesome cathedral! Isn’t it awesome how we get to make such an awesome impact?!
So what does that tell you right there? How you describe your current job or profession commands respect and likeability from other people.
2.) Ask Yourself Empowering Questions
Think about this about this for a second. As I talk about in a lot more detail in Appreciation Academy, thinking is nothing more than asking yourself a series of questions, right?! That’s what thinking is. And a lot of us ask ourselves questions that make us act in a way that doesn’t command respect from others. For example, a lot of people ask themselves, “why am I so broke?” and so that’s all they focus on. And because what you focus on becomes reality, you become more broke. But some people ask themselves, “why am I worthy of creating wealth?” and just that thought alone will change how you carry yourself, how you introduce yourself, and what you think of yourself.
So something you can do to become likeable and to think about yourself more positively is to ask yourself uplifting questions about the direction you want to take your life?
If you asked yourself, “why am I so confident?” or “Why do I show respect?” or “Why am I so much fun to be around?” then you’ll start carrying yourself differently. And when you carry yourself differently, people respond to you differently. See? It starts in your mind.
3.) Act As If.
And third, what you can do is act as if. Want to be wealthy? How does a wealthy person act? Want to be happy? How does a happy person act? Want to be confident? How does a confident person act? An amazing thing happens when you act as if you are something… you start to feel it…, and you start to become it.
4.) Look For The Best In People
And finally, look for the best in others. It’s funny… a lot of people go through life expecting that people will annoy them or that people will make them angry… and they’re never disappointed because they’re always expecting the world to do them harm… But when you go out there always looking for the best in people, what happens? You become nicer, less closed off, more confident, empathetic, more open… and when you do that, guess what happens? People like you more. When you’re closed off or expecting everyone to do you harm, you carry yourself differently, and people respond to you differently, don’t they? So go out there expecting the best in others, and you’ll be amazed at how much people start to like you!
So those four tips should help. Look for the best in others, act as if, ask yourself uplifting questions, and thinking what you do is super important. When you do those four things, you start to carry yourself in a higher way. You start to command respect from others. You start to be more engaging. You start to be more friendly.
And since the world will treat you the way you expect to be treated, all of a sudden, when you apply this, the world starts treating you differently.
It all starts with you and the way you carry yourself. You are what you think you are. And if you think you’re a likeable person, the chances are that you are.
Your confidence determines your likeability!
And if you struggle with that and know you need help in being more likeable so you can have a great relationship, make more friends, and explode your sales, I want to formally invite you to check out my mini-program, called, “The Likeability Factor!”
It’s a deep dive into mastering influence and likeability, so you not only command respect through your confidence, but you become instantly trusted by anyone you come in contact with! Can you imagine how much that would explode your business and your life!?
All you have to do is head to bradbizjack.com, and you’ll see The Likeability Factor available right on that homepage under the section “Learn With Brad!” This course is worth $149 bucks, but I’m offering to you today for 67% off. Today, it’s $49 for you!
So head to bradbizjack.com and join The Likeability Factor today!! You’ll be so glad you did!
Thank you so much for being here today and tuning into The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack. Go out there today and every day and live your life with a genuine smile on your face! It’s the first step to being much more likeable!
I’ll see you next week!