Welcome to The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack! I’m a mindset strategist and coach, inspirational speaker, and creator of Appreciation Academy and I help online business owners breakthrough all the negative self-talk holding you back from your dreams so you can finally see the success you deserve!
I'm curious as you go through your life… as you go through your business…
Do you have a challenge with your success and achievement determining your worth? …something I had for a very long time.
It was something where I needed to achieve more in order to be fulfilled.
I'm going to share with you a little story about getting out of debt. One of the things that was a challenge when we were working to get out of debt was, I tied my worth through achievement and I would say when I'm out of debt I'll feel happy, right?!
And I would pay off a certain amount, but I still wouldn't be fulfilled (because we still had more debt to pay off!) Then I got a ton paid off and I still wouldn't feel fulfilled. There was always a “What's next?!”
Then it would be… “When I got out of debt!!” but I still wouldn't be fulfilled… because we didn't have a savings built up. Then it would be “When we get a savings built up!!” but I still wouldn't be fulfilled… because I didn't have enough investments. Then it would be… “When we get the oven!!”… “When we get more investments!!”… “When we have enough for retirement by the age of 30!!” Right?!
My point is that if I would've kept going on the same path, tying my achievement to my worth, I would have been miserable.
And that's what a lot of people do in their business. And I did this in business too for the longest time. When I get to the next rank… I'll be fulfilled and successful. No, you won't!! Because I did it- I got to the next rank and I didn't feel successful or fulfilled!
You need to realize that your happiness isn't in your business growth.
It's not in the money you make. It's in your memories. It's in your gratitude!
Now, if this is you then I think this podcast is going to help a lot. When I get to my next rank, I'll finally feel worthy, or once I hit that monthly benchmark consistently, then I'll know I'm doing enough. And that tie of worth to your achievements, it's a recipe for suffering.
Because let me ask you this, even if you achieve a to-do list with your current mindset- do you feel fulfilled?!
No, not at all!
Because your achievement doesn't determine your fulfillment. In fact, just like Tony Robbins says, “Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure!”
So how do we feel fulfillment? How do we feel more fulfillment in our life as we're building our dream? It's so important to live this way and realize that your business doesn't determine your happiness.
One of the main things I teach in Appreciation Academy is that business success and money don't cause happiness! Happiness causes those things and whatever you want to master, you need to study. What most people do is they study how to build a business.
And does that matter? Yes, absolutely! It matters. It's a strategy. But strategies are 20% of the battle. 80% is your psychology. So, most people study, “How do I invite?!” or “What's a fancy app to use?!” or “How can I go about this differently to make I use the right tracking system?!”… Right?!
And they focused on the strategy and that's what they study. But they have neglected to study happiness! So, let's say if you're in health and fitness, if you study health and fitness, do you notice that you tend to get better at health and fitness as you go?! If you study money, what happens? Don't you tend to save more money?! Whatever you want to master, you need to study it!
So how do we feel fulfilled on the way to success? We study happiness! We study happiness!!
There are people out there (myself included) that have success and fulfillment. They have both of the things. It's not one or the other. They have both! What I did on my journey when I started to feel this way- I started studying people that have what I wanted.
I started studying the Brendon Burchard's, the Tony Robbins', the Oprah Winfrey’s… you know, all these successful people! And I studied how do they think differently than 98% of the population? And I started adopting those beliefs into my day to day life. And my life changed drastically because think about this for a second…
If you're being totally honest with yourself, are you going to care so much about your current business right now at the end of your life?!
Let's fast forward for a second- Let’s put yourself at the end of your life… you're 85 years old… you're sitting in your rocking chair… you got your cane… you're drinking some sweet tea on your porch. You're watching your grandkids or even great grandkids ride by on their bikes.
You know, they’re just starting out their life. What are you going to care about in that moment? In the last couple days of your life? What are you actually going to care about?! Are you going to give a shit if you got to diamond rank? Are you going to care if you saved $20,000 by whatever date?!
No, you're not going to care about that!!
You're going to care about the memories you had with the people you love!! The people that added value to in your life and the character you had! That's what you're gonna care about most.
Do those goals matter? Absolutely! But you need to remember that the goals don't matter as much as the person you become along the way to your goals! What matters is the character you build along the way. That is what matters most. That's where life changes!
When you focus more on the person you're becoming- that’s where life changes! Most people (instead) try to climb this big mountain of success.
Put your dream on top of a mountain for a second saying “I'll be happy when…”
It's setting you up for suffering because nothing in your life needs to happen for you to be happy.
Most people try to climb life or do life that way. I'll be happy when I get there. The problem is the same thing as trying to climb a mountain with a blindfold on. Because if you need to get there now and you can't be happy until you achieve next and you make a sprint beeline for the top with a blindfold on, you're going to trip… you're going to fall… you're going to die.
And even if you magically happened to get to the top, even if you magically get there, which is probably not going to happen, you're not gonna see any of the beauty around you!!
So, what would happen if you just chill and you realize that your success in business doesn't determine your happiness, your happiness determines your success in business.
Imagine anytime you've gone hiking out west and you get on the trail, it doesn't matter what direction is going up, down, left, right, peaks, valleys, whatever it is… you never doubt it's going to lead you to the top.
So, you enjoy the hike, don't you?!
You appreciate the streams that you cross!
You appreciate the wildlife in the distance!
You appreciate the weather. All the stuff on the way and you smile on the way!!
It doesn't seem easier to get there. What would happen if you went on that path and you said, “I'm not going to be happy until I get to the top.”
And you just look at the peak (and ONLY the peak!) and you just go…. You’ll get off the trail and…well ... you’ll probably die. It's not going to happen!
And think about the sets of emotions when it comes to that type of a hike.
I need to get there NOW and I can't be happy until I do! OR the calm, peaceful, enjoying, relaxing one. Think about the difference in emotions between them, right?!
One is frustration, anger, being pissed off, all these things on a regular basis (And most of you probably live life that way!)
And the other one is happiness, being joyful to be alive, gratitude, peace, relaxation, creativity. Right?!
And that's the thing about those two sets of emotions… Which one are you operating with and which set of emotions are you more likely to build a business from?
Which set of emotions are you more likely to help people from?
Which set of emotions are you more likely to have a great relationship from?
So my friend, be committed to getting to that goal, but not having your worth be attached to that goal every day!
Go on this experience of hiking for the hike itself, not just the summit!
And when you do that, if your goal is personal growth… when life’s up then down OR it's going uphill or downhill OR you have a teammate quit OR you get a return or you drop in rank OR your revenue is less than last year… if that's the case and your objective is personal growth and the person you become and the lives you change along the way…THEN all of a sudden you learn something instead of hate something!
And if you learned something instead of hate something, it becomes so much easier to get to the top because you actually learned the lessons that life is trying to teach you. Instead of pushing away saying, “I'll be happy when…”
Your achievement is NOT tied to your worth. It is not tied to your worth!!
Your worth causes your achievement!
It always comes first. Happiness comes before success because success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure of life!
So, if you're going to work on something for your business, work on YOU!
Work on YOUR worth.
Work on YOUR mindset!
And if that's something that you truly need help with, that is what my course is literally for it is for people that are struggling with that exact thing!!
Check it out Appreciation Academy
If you want the discount for that, all you have to do is type in the big in all caps PODCAST at checkout and you'll get a 50% discount on the program!
So, I hope you took a lot away from this. At the end of the day, when you're looking back at your life, you're not going to care if you hit your monthly benchmarks. You're going to care about the relationship you have with your husband or wife.
You're going to care about how you raise those kids. You're going to care about your character. That's what you're actually going to care about. So, live in those memories instead of saying, “I'll be happy when…” because as long as you live in a world of “I'll be happy when…” you will never be happy!
So, hope you took a lot away from this!
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