Your greatest challenge is that you think you shouldn't have challenges.
And to the degree that you are able to accept your current challenges, is the degree you are able to change them!
For years, I thought that my challenges shouldn't be there.
I thought that I shouldn't be in debt, my marriage should be different, and I should have more money and spend more time with my family... I would "should-ing" all over myself!
I always thought things should be different than they are right now.
I was resisting the challenges that were in my life.
What I've come to learn over the years is that problems are just gifts that you grow from!
The only people without problems are dead.
If you don't have problems, start begging for them because they're a sign of life.
That gift is typically wrapped in pain.
A couple of weeks ago, my wife found herself in the hospital 3x during the biggest project our team has ever had in 5 years of business. Yet, I was able to be fully present with her throughout the entire experience.
I would see messages pouring in from people assuming that I was probably super stressed and/or anxious with everything going on, but the truth is, I wasn't.
This is because I have conditioned my mind to accept challenges when they show up!
Not only did this allow me to take on the challenge head-on while being present with my wife, but it also allowed me to share this story and inspire other people to see what's possible.
I share this because to the degree that you can accept your current circumstances, is the degree in which you can change them.
Problems and challenges are what allow you to grow.
I am not saying they're not painful, they are. However, there is a difference between feeling pain and using pain to escape the responsibilities you have. You are allowed to feel that pain, you just can't stay there.
No matter the challenge you face, you have to accept it.
That doesn't mean you have to stay there.
"Whatever you resist, persists."
If there is a challenge in your life and you make that challenge wrong, it intensifies.
Life likes to teach us lessons so that we can learn and grow.
I learned this from a man named Scott Harris and it made a big impact on my life. He said, “Life is full of what's called feathers, bricks, and trucks.” What that means is life will dust you with a feather and say, “You should probably pay attention to this. This is probably important. Take a look.” It's just a feather dusting, so you let go of the tickle and move on with your life.
You don't pay attention to what life's trying to teach you. It keeps us with the feather and you're not listening. It keeps saying, “Pay attention. Look at this.” What does life do? Life says, “I got to get your attention about this.” It writes a note on a sheet of paper and wraps that note around a brick. It throws that brick through your living room window and it says, “Pay attention, dummy.”
What most people do is that they're ticked off at the window is broken and that it shouldn't be broken. It should still be there in their living room. “The window shouldn't be like this. The problem is it shouldn't be here. This problem is getting bigger. This problem is getting worse. That window, the glass shatters everywhere, cut my foot open. My kids are going to crawl on it. It shouldn't be like that.” Their focus is going to the problem, the broken window, what shouldn't be, instead of looking at the thing that caused it, which is the brick with a note that's sitting in their living room. With the lesson that's the key to their freedom but instead, they choose to avoid it because they're ticked off about the window.
Life's like, “I need to get ahold of you. This is important.” Life is always rigged in our favor. Life's always trying to teach us something. Life is always giving us a gift to move toward what we want. Life keeps throwing bricks and we keep on paying attention. What life does is it takes some red paint and it paints the lesson in the front of a Mack Truck and it runs you over as it blares its horn. You have to listen and you have to pay attention.
My hope is you don't get to that point. When you live in the land of, “I should be further along. My marriage and bank account should be different. My business should be further along,” then you're not seeing the beauty in where you are right now. You're exactly where you need to be to learn the lesson that life is trying to teach you. When you make it wrong to be where you are, then you are resisting the gift that’s the key to your freedom.
Your emotions are 100% within your control.
Problems persist from resisting your current circumstances.
The lesson you are resisting is the key to your freedom.
When you lift weights, you feel the muscle burning because you’re pushing or pulling against resistance to sculpt your muscles. Problems are the resistance that sculpts your character.
Pain is guaranteed. Suffering is a choice.
Life is happening for you, not to you.
If you find yourself having a hard time with this, it may be due to the fact that your mindset is wired a particular way. You may have been so conditioned to look at problems in a way that's limiting you.
You might be seeking safety, security, and protection in the face of problems.
What you can do is look at the beliefs that are causing you to look at problems a certain way.
I've created a completely free quiz, "What's Your Unique Success Archetype?" so that you can see how you're currently approaching success, how you're currently trying to change your circumstances, and how you might be resisting problems without seeing them!
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