How to find the right success partner…
I’m going to teach you how to expand your network and find the RIGHT success partner.
Welcome to The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack! I’m a Mindset Strategist and Coach, inspirational speaker, and creator of Appreciation Academy and I help online business owner’s breakthrough all the negative self-talk holding you back from your dreams so you can finally see the success you deserve! This is the weekly spot to break through everything that’s holding you back from the life you really want!
So, let's dive in!
“There’s no greater life hack in the world than selecting your peer group intelligently.”
-Me (I’m allowed to quote myself once a week, okay?!)
It's so important that we realize this because a lot of people starting out in entrepreneurship think that they need to do it ALL themselves. That's an employee mindset of doing it yourself.
You can achieve so much more together than you ever can alone. The ideas that come from other people are game-changers. Your business and life will explode when you no longer are a loner. When you're surrounded by people that are playing ball at a super high level, they will also expect YOU to succeed. When people are playing ball at a high level and that is all your surroundings, they expect you to succeed (and that’s a GOOD thing!)
“Your life is a direct reflection of the expectations of your peer group.”
I want you to imagine your life is a multinational corporation. It's publicly traded and it’s a huge company that is changing lives! This company has a Board of Directors who are people that make decisions on where that company goes. They have an influence in your choices as the CEO of your life (and company!)
SO, I want you to ask yourself… the people that are sitting on YOUR Board of Directors, they might be great people, but have they done or are they doing what you want to do with your life?
If the answer is ‘No’… you need to upgrade your Board of Directors.
You want people that are doing what you are doing… who believe in what you believe in.
You might have to go through a few success partners to find the right one, but it’s CRUCIAL you find one that is right for where you want to go.
Let’s define the different relationships in your life…
Friend- Someone you go to for support. Someone you talk about your challenges or problems with. Someone you go to to have fun and play around with. (It’s super important to have friends and good ones!)
Peer- Someone you are (literally) worried about what they think of you. You will change who you are to adapt to their higher standard. If they’re going after their dreams, you’re allowed to buy into them. This is someone who will make you better because they aren’t afraid to hurt your feelings. They will tell you to ‘Step it up!’
They value growth.
They value contribution.
They value taking risks.
Write this down: When the people around you expect you to succeed, you will succeed. You will find a way to win because you'll always want to conform to be loved by the people that you're around the most.
So, who are you around the most?!
Example: You want to lose 50lbs! You start a nutrition plan + exercise regiment, but the people you surround yourself with the most… like to drink and eat wings and are not active. How successful do you think you’re going to be?!
I’m not saying get new friends.
I’m saying get a peer group that also values their health! Surround yourself with them as you reach your goals and choose to live your life healthier!
"We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with" -John Rohn
It is a cliché for a reason… do not roll your eyes at clichés!
Do you surround yourself with people that are also going after their big dreams?
What are the qualities + characteristics + beliefs of someone you would like as a peer?
What is their consistent emotional state?
What are their habits?
What are their thoughts?
Write them out!
Next, write down the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Last, compare lists! Do any of these 5 people line up with the previous list you made? Do any of them think + act the way you’d expect for someone in your peer group?
If only 1 or 2 of your 5 people line up… you’re going to have a hard time!
If it’s 3 or 4… you’re going to balance each other out… neutral.
If it’s all 5… you’re going to CRUSH IT!
You may not have the perfect five… this is something you build over time. I have spent years (almost a decade) marketing myself and getting to networking events and adding value to people's lives, to finally find my INCREDIBLE peer group. These are people that play ball at a VERY high level and they inspire the H out of me! I can go to them for advice, to talk to, to serve! It’s amazing!!
How do you introduce yourself to these types of people?
Here’s your script… “Hi, my name is XXX. It’s nice to meet you!”
THAT’S IT! The key is not to go fangirl on them! Keep it cool!
How do you build these types of relationships?
You become solution-focused. You don’t complain about your problems to your peers, be focused on the solutions to your problems, AND add value to their lives, too! How can you serve your peers? What can you do for them? Make their life even better!
You might be thinking… “Who would want to be success partners with me?”
You can't accept that level of childish talk in your life anymore! You have to turn that off! That is childish. That is high school. Let go of that. Add value to people and quit worrying about what they're thinking of. You add value to their life.
How do you find these peers?
You buy them. What does that mean? These people play ball at a super high level. Where are they hanging out? What are they saying? Well, chances are, they're hanging out at all the events!
They're hanging out at personal development seminars.
They're hanging out at business/leadership conferences.
“Well, Brad… I can’t afford to go to those types of events!”
Friend… you can’t afford NOT to go.
You need to get to that seminar because you’re going to meet those people.
You are going to learn invaluable information.
And, once you do that… your business will explode, and your financial situation will change (dramatically).
Oh and… don’t get the cheap seats. Find a way to get the expensive seats… front row. That is where your people are!
I have made SOOO many connections this way! SO. MANY. You can’t afford NOT to.
OR another option is to join a Mastermind. You’ll be exposed to people who are looking to grow! And how do you make connections with those people?? You add value to their lives!!
If you try to go through entrepreneurship alone, you will only get so far.
My name is Brad Bizjack.
Remember to go out there today and every day and live your life with a genuine smile on your face. You are literally one mindset shift away from doing that. I'll see you next week!