An Appreciation Academy Blog by Brad Bizjack
Stop waiting for a better relationship, bigger pay check, or business growth to fulfill you. You have everything you need for true happiness right now. Break through everything holding you back by appreciating the life you already have.
Did you check out PART 1 of this blog post yet? It’s INCREDIBLY helpful! If you haven’t, you can find it here: How To Get Out Of Your Rut When You're Feeling Stuck - Part 1
It’s time to do some self-honesty checks! Part 1 is by far and above the most important piece of getting out of your rut. However, there are a few MAJOR influences that play a huge role in how your life turns out.
Have you heard the cliché, “you are the average of the 5 people you spend your time with?” It’s a cliché because it’s REAL.
Example: If your group of friends gossips about the boss or other people, you’ll slowly turn into that person. If you’re around negative people that are drinking all the time instead of focusing on their personal growth, you’ll become that person.
I know this because I did it. I was in a job...
You're most likely reading this because you're CURRENTLY IN a rut, WERE IN a rut, or know someone IN a rut.
Where can you relate to this story?
Back in 2011, I got a super cool job out of college working in retail merchandising. The high paycheck is what attracted me to it, not the content of the work (no offense to anyone who loves retail - just not my passion). Within the first hour of my first day on October 20th, I knew it was the wrong fit. I tried to rationalize why it was great. But it wasn't.
The second I walked in the doors, my energy instantly drained. I just DIDN'T. WANT. TO. BE. THERE.
I'd call Janiece on I-270 on the way home FURIOUS and sometimes even crying. She couldn't recognize who I was becoming and neither could I.
I was the positive guy with secret deep emotional pain.
I didn't feel like there was...
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If you're someone who craves success, works super hard, but doesn't actually FEEL successful, keep reading because holy bananas this will help you!
Do you ever notice that even if you're passionate, it doesn't matter how hard you work? It just seems like your dream keeps getting further out of reach, right?
You keep looking for the "secrets of self-made" people. Those words, "self-made" get thrown around a LOT.
Last week, I did a blog post called, "How To Stop Dwelling On The Past." It's critical that you check that out because it shows you how to OWN your life. When you actually take 100% responsibility for your life, you start to realize that YOU are the reason you're at where you're at.
YOU ARE THE REASON THAT YOU'RE:
Let's start by stating something you ABSOLUTELY need to know:
What does that mean? It means your past does NOT determine your future!
Money was always tight when I was younger. There was always a screaming match about the bank account over-drafting or the credit card bill. When I was about 10, I remember a particularly bad fight. They yelled swear words back and forth, and I said, "why do you guys always have to fight about stupid money?!" Immediately, mom snapped and told me to shut the f*** up and go to my room. And right then, I saw my dad react in a way I've never seen before. It was as close to a physical altercation without ACTUALLY getting physical.
I remember thinking that money caused this. And that memory was engrained in my mind the rest of my life. So for the majority of my adult life, I hated money. Whenever it came up, it seemed like someone was about to get punched in the face (even though that never...
With this girl, life is so easy.
If your relationship is strained, this is DEFINITELY worth the read.
Ever heard, "Relationships take unbelievably hard work?" I heard it this weekend and thought, "wow I totally disagree." Intentionality and effort? Yes. Stressful, hard work? Hell no.
If you're always fighting, is your relationship broken? Idk. But I do know that if you both love each other, it's preventable.
Lemme tell you an unsolicited story that could help you if you're having a hard time.
You might not know that Janiece and I fought almost every day for our first year and a half. I'm talking STUPID shit.
"I need to see your Facebook messages right now." "You looked at that girl." "You danced with that guy." "You didn't text me when you said you would." "I need reassurance." "Not enough attention." "I guess I just don't trust you."
Jealousy - Fear of loss - Pride - Past hurts creeping back.
A little story for you: The second I started in the corporate world in 2011, I instantly knew it wasn't the right fit. Do you ever walk into your office and ask yourself, "why am I settling for this?" or "Why am I here again?" The bureaucracy drives you nuts. Everything is an inefficient use of time. Red tape stops you from getting anything done. You feel insignificant. You feel like your opinion doesn't matter.
(Important note: This is NOT a dig on corporate America. My previous company operates this way. Some companies are GREAT, and people love what they do. I didn't.)
Something more. That's all I wanted. Do you ever feel that? You know the pull in your heart to contribute more, give more, BECOME more? I wanted that SO badly.
At the time, I figured the problem with my lack of fulfillment was my company. So I changed jobs. My boss and...
Overwhelm, anxiety, fear, depression, and worry will stop you in your tracks from going after your biggest dreams. Sound familiar?
There's one solution that takes those negative emotions and turns them into power.
I'm not claiming this solves problems in your business. I'm not claiming more money will appear in your bank account from doing this.
But it WILL:
All it takes is 2 minutes.
I call this the secret ingredient. You might know it as genuine gratitude.
Not gratitude where you "count your blessings" and say you're glad you have a roof over your head. I mean REAL gratitude where you feel the emotion of it.
I practice this daily. And my life has never been the same since. I started a new business....
Just received a "woe is me" text from someone in my family. Ever get those?
It made me think of the safeguards I've put up over the years to protect my mind and keep me positive. Is it cool if I share with you?
I have people in my life that I love deeply, but I HAVE TO limit my exposure. They just DRAIN me with all their constant focus on "what's wrong" or "listen to my problems."
You can still LOVE negative people in your life, but be selective in how you spend your time. You should NEVER feel guilty for making yourself happier. Just know that you can still LOVE your family, but you should PICK your peer group.
2.) Ask new people "How's your day going?"
This is my INSTANT telltale sign if someone's worth getting to know better. If they say, "I'm doing great!" (or something positive) they'll likely BRING energy into your life.
But if they always say, "Oh I'm okay..." or "eh, I'm been better," they're likely going...
Right after the launch of www.bradbizjack.com, my wife and I decided to move homes. Before we did, I heard 5 different people say "omg moving is so stressful."
I LOVE surprising my wife, so I decided that while she was in Chicago visiting friends, I'd move the entire place for us with my dad’s help.
How the hell does this have to do with stress?
Here's how you turn any "stressful" situation in your life into something great.
(Not just great, but one of the best experiences of your life)
It’s really simple. Any challenging task SUCKS when we’re focused on what it means for only ourselves. I could've focused on how much of a pain in the ass it was to box up everything, clean the old place, unbox everything, and set it all up before she got home.
The second I take the focus and put it on ME, it becomes annoying, it makes me anxious, and I dread it.
Instead, I focused on:
Moving means that I get to...
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